For the last three or four summer camp days my spawn has been coming home with her water bottle full, so as always I’ve been following up with: Did you forget to drink your water today, why is your water bottle still full?, you need water to grow, and a 100 useful “fun” facts about why we need water. All of which were rebuffed with stories of how she drank all her water and re-filled it at camp. Which made sense the first two times. After the third day I caught on and would ask questions casting doubt and reminding her why it is important to tell the truth but she reassured me it was all legit.
Fast forward to day five or so when she had
a string of supporting cast all of who she went with to fill the bottle and
featuring a teacher who helped open the bottle. So of course I asked if I
called her teacher would she support her story and what should happen if she doesn’t;
To which my cleaver spawn even had punishment ideas. That’s of course until I called
her bluff and suggested harsher punishment more befitting prolonged deception. She
broke down and in tears admitted to all the lies in sequential order and then uttered
as sincere of an apology as a six year old in tears could muster which was then
followed up by a plea for clemency.
Her punishment was decided upon and agreed
to by the both of us in three parts: One was a denial of privilege by rescinding
her permission to attend a field trip that was planned for the next day to the
Hockey Hall of Fame something she had been looking forward to for a very long
time and even got a family member to purchase a hockey jersey of her favorite
team to wear on the trip; Two education thru repetition, she would have to tell
everyone who asked why she wasn’t going the whole truth of what happened; And three
in her next video blog she would discuss the lesson she learn and different ways
to rebuild trust.
She cried that morning before summer camp I
almost did too, we shared our feelings and how we will hold each other
accountable in love thru honest communication, how punishment can sometimes
feel like lack of love in the moment and that even though that’s how she felt
that she also knew in her heart that I loved her “dearly”.
....Lessons from a six year old to Rob Ford
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